Have you ever had a bad day and decided to throw in the towel?
A few years back I picked up our local newspaper. As I scanned the obituaries I immediately recognized the photo of my father. The step-monster did not reach out and let me know my father had passed away nor did she include myself in the obituary. My children were excluded as well – my dad’s only biological grandchildren.
That, my friend was a bad day. I wanted to throw in the towel.
A bad day can make you feel like giving up and waiting for tomorrow to come.
Here’s the good news. A bad day can be saved.
You really don’t get that many days over the course of a lifetime, so make the most of each day.
With some effort and a little mental toughness, a bad day can be turned into a good day.
Learn to make a good day out of a bad day with these strategies:
- Relax. Sure, your day is off to a terrible start, but it’s not over just yet. The first step is to take a deep breath and relax. Slow down your heart rate, think a few positive thoughts, and regain your composure. Put yourself in the right frame of mind to salvage the remainder of the day.
- Accomplish something. Get one little thing accomplished that you can check off your list. If you’re at home, make your bed or clean the kitchen counters. If you’re at work, send that email you’ve been avoiding. Give yourself a small success and a little momentum.
- Call a friend. Call a friend and share your bad day. You want to call someone that will be encouraging. Avoid calling someone that will do more harm than good.
- Make a plan for the remainder of the day. If you want to salvage the day, you need a plan. Look at the time you have left in the day and decide what’s most important to accomplish. Make a reasonable plan to get the most important things completed before the day is over.
- Be grateful. Gratitude can reset your attitude. When you feel grateful, you have a better perspective and can be more productive. You feel less hopeless when you experience gratitude.
- Get some exercise. A bad day can create a lot of negative emotions. Those emotions create a lot of energy that needs to be burned off. Exercise is a great way to move toward feeling normal again. You can make wiser decisions when you’re less emotionally stimulated.
- Be proud of yourself for turning your day around. Allow yourself to feel proud as soon as you make even a tiny bit of progress. This will provide a well-needed boost to your mood, self-esteem, and progress.
- Determine how you contributed to having a bad day. Some bad days are just random events, but others are not. Consider the origin of your bad day and brainstorm ways of preventing a repeat occurrence. Not all bad days can be prevented, but many can.
- Make a plan for tomorrow. Choose to make the most of tomorrow. You might have some catching up to do. Or, you might need to plan a night on the town with a few friends. Make up for having a bad day by having a magnificent day.
- Get a good night of sleep. You survived! Do your best to recharge your batteries and prepare for tomorrow. Hopefully, tomorrow will be much better. You’ll certainly feel better after a good night of rest.
Bad days will happen, but you don’t have to give up and pray for tomorrow to arrive. You can turn your bad day around and have a great day.
Learning about the death of my father in the newspaper was hurtful and set the tone for a bad day. I allowed myself a few moments to be angry (really angry) at the step-monster and then I gave myself permission to grieve. Did my day get better? It did..after I let go of the resentment and the anger toward the step-monster.
If your day is off to a bad start, be determined to still get as much from that day as you can. This is a valuable skill for anyone to master. Clear your head, relax, and make a plan for the rest of your day. You got this!
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Loretta Holmes is the owner of Bella Coaching Services and is on a mission to help families manage their anxiety and create happiness. She does this while imperfectly parenting two goofy golden doodles, and occasionally hanging out on Facebook. Download her free Cheat Sheet: Top 10 Anxiety Busters To Boost Your Self Confidence and reduce your anxiety today.